By Amy Otto

Even worse, in dropping their standards women have reduced their capacity to get what they really want. Less commitment, less caring, less respect, and an increased emphasis on appearance are poor outcomes for women, too. Their random “empowerment” pictures on social media in emulating Kardashian are the only lever they have left in the arsenal because they’ve given everything else away. In an attempt to be known for our personhood, we thrown ourselves back on the most obvious weapon in a woman’s arsenal: curves.

Reverting to a primitive charm offensive in hopes of luring a man’s attention for 10 uninterrupted minutes is not empowerment. Nor is it what makes married women happy: “The biggest predictor of women’s happiness is their husband’s emotional engagement. The extent to which he is affectionate, to which he is empathetic, to which he is basically tuned into his wife, this is the most important factor in predicting the wife’s happiness. This basically drowns out every other factor in our models.”

Instead you have young girls today pushing themselves too early into pleasing men without expecting reciprocity. “College women are more likely than men to use their partner’s physical pleasure as the yardstick for their satisfaction, saying things like ‘If he’s sexually satisfied, then I’m sexually satisfied, ’” says Sara McClelland, a psychologist at the University of Michigan. “Men are more likely to measure satisfaction by their own orgasm.”

If you cross this fact with what drives happiness for women in marriage, nobody is winning this war of the sexes. Kim Kardashian looks lovely, but she may be making us all less prosperous.