by Suzanne Venker

http://thefederalist.com/2017/01/09/womens-top-3-unrealistic-expectations-men-marriage/

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"Here’s what love is not: being swept away on a white horse by a gorgeous, svelte guy who makes gobs of money and who, miraculously, doesn’t drink or gamble or stay out late but who’s a fully engaged husband and father who cooks, cleans, and plays with his kids for hours.

This man Does. Not. Exist. (Or if he does, he’s taken.) Many women say they know this is unrealistic, but they don’t actually accept it. If they did, they wouldn’t be chronically dissatisfied."

"Being happily married does not mean you’ll be happy all the time. On any given day, week, month, or year you will, in fact, not be happy—nor will you have warm fuzzies for your husband. Sometimes your marriage will suck. So go with it; let it suck. Don’t assume that whatever’s happening means you married the wrong man or that your marriage is doomed. Don’t assume that because things aren’t working out the way you want them to at that particular moment in time that you need a different life.

The purpose of marriage is not to make you happy. You and you alone are responsible for that.

This may sound depressing at face value. But once you accept that marriage isn’t designed to make you happy, it frees you up to focus on what does make you happy. By recognizing your happiness level begins and ends with you, your energy will be focused in the right direction."